The Single Season


Hi everyone! How are you all doing? I really do need to know!

I feel like it’s been a whole decade since I last got on here!

It was a well needed break – from all of it. Just to catch you up a bit ….during my B.R.B time I had the opportunity to go on the Brave by Faith trip to the Amalfi Coast in Italy with the most amazing, faithful, spirit-led host – Juliette Bush and 11 other amazing women – which changed my whole life. (I plan on writing a post on Italy eventually and some of the things God shared with me, so stay tuned)

But today, I am going to share a little about what I have learned in my single season – the season a lot of us women dread and become impatient in.

Ladies, we must learn that we cannot rush God’s plan for our life. He is the one who has touched our lives , therefore He is the one who will bless it. We must stop worrying about the when, what and the “who”. It’s all about God’s timing and we have been called to have faith and to believe in His promises. You are right where you need to be – God isn’t finished with you as yet and something great is in store for you. God is in charge.

With that said…..

This, by far has been one of the most important seasons for me and I had to protect it with my whole life. It was in this season I recognised that I was actually broken and it forced me to surrender 100% + to trust God with my brokenness. If I am not broken – I don’t need a Saviour. I had to understand that it is God that heals me from the state of brokenness.

Psalm 147:3 NLT says: “He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds.”

I mean He already knows everything about me. Every hurt, pain, moment of breakthrough and joy.

It was my season of growth and revelation. It was here in this season, I learned so much about myself and the purpose God has so graciously assigned to me. It is in this very season that Jesus really has been not only my Father, but my very best friend.

I’m single because I’m whole and IN my wholeness God will set me up… but I had to put God first. With the wisdom He has given me in this season, I know I won’t have to compromise God’s will for me. God saw that Adam had a need and the woman came without the need.

I knew I had to be single before I could serve as a healthy, spirit- led helpmate.

In this season I not only learned to serve at my church but to serve others and my community.

Yes, people had a lot to say (Chile, wedding time now or your biological clock is TICKING) but I had to be led by the spirit. I understand that there is an assigned purpose that will come with my marriage and that God has to prepare me first. I have to be patient with His timing, not mine or the world’s “clock”.

It has been my best season.

I just encourage you ladies: Enjoy extended, uninterrupted quiet time with Jesus. Travel. Spend time with the ones you love the most. Serve at your church and community. Help a single mom out. Volunteer. Open that business. Write that book.

I can’t wait to see what my Lord will do for 2019

lots of love,

The Graced Citizen

8 Comments Add yours

  1. We missed you!! So happy to have you back ❤

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  2. Seasons are important! Just as how we rush summer or winter we can’t rush the seasons of our lives! We need winter, spring, fall and summer!! Each of them leads to the next season!

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    1. Amennnnn each prepares us for a season that is ahead of us! Ecc. 3 is a perfect remainder of this

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  3. Shandy says:

    Love this D!! As a married person I can relate to everything you are saying even in marriage! We do have to protect and glen from the seasons we go through. Sit still and let God work out His good works within us!!!!! Thanks love, so proud of you and this season!!!

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    1. Thank you ❤️ so much! Amen with seasons and allowing God to work through us. Amazing that a married person can relate 🙌🏽


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