What’s in your Jar?

Faith will not be moved by your circumstance but by your own faith.

If your hands are filled with your own burdens, there is no space for God to heal you. You must surrender everything to the Lord. Learn to let go.

God will bless you based on what you are prepared for.

2 Kings 4:1-7:

Elijah Helps a Poor Widow

“One day the widow of a member of the group of prophets came to Elisha and cried out, “My husband who served you is dead, and you know how he feared the Lord. But now a creditor has come, threatening to take my two sons as slaves.” “What can I do to help you?” Elisha asked. “Tell me, what do you have in the house?” “Nothing at all, except a flask of olive oil,” she replied. And Elisha said, “Borrow as many empty jars as you can from your friends and neighbors. Then go into your house with your sons and shut the door behind you. Pour olive oil from your flask into the jars, setting each one aside when it is filled.” So she did as she was told. Her sons kept bringing jars to her, and she filled one after another. Soon every container was full to the brim! “Bring me another jar,” she said to one of her sons. “There aren’t any more!” he told her. And then the olive oil stopped flowing. When she told the man of God what had happened, he said to her, “Now sell the olive oil and pay your debts, and you and your sons can live on what is left over.””

What is blocking the oil in your jar?

What are the things that are preventing you from healing?

Guilt?

Unforgiveness?

Bitterness?

Self pity?

Complaining?

Complacency?

Constant comparison?

Lack of faith?

Personal sin?

Generational sin?

Placing idols before God?

Death? Fear of death?

Trying to change another human being?

Burdens?

Unresolved hurt?

There are areas of your life God wants to fill and can’t because they are filled with a lot of other things!

Release and have a spirit of expentancy! Ask the Lord to fill you up today

lots of love,

The Graced Citizen

Forgiveness

Let’s talk about forgiveness!

My perspective is always growing on this topic. We probably face this topic on a daily basis.

How often do we just easily cut someone off or ignore them because they hurt us? I have been guilty of this but I had to learn and try my best to remember how Jesus forgave.

In Matthew 18: 21-22, Peter asked how often we should forgive:

“Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”

This is how it should be when we forgive. A clean white, slate on our hearts for the person. Sounds pretty simple, right?

My understanding of forgiveness is that the first thing is that it is between the one who has been hurt and God.

Therefore, if I am wronged or feel as if I have been wronged… my first source should be God. Not the other person or the other person’s friend or even my friends or family. God should be the first to be contacted! I forgive because I want to be set free through Christ.

We as Christians should allow people to recover. Discern those around you who are genuine when they apologize.

Stop feeding into what society teaches us – That we need to fend for ourselves – simply by erasing people and celebrate the cut.

The reality is SOME relationships are worth fighting for. How often have WE betrayed Jesus and he forgave us? How often does He grant us new beginnings? After forgiveness- Know when to protect your spirit, know when to reconcile and restore. Peter had a bad day, Judas had a bad heart.

Ephesians 4:32 says:

” Be kind to each other, tender hearted and forgiving one another just as God through Christ has forgiven you”

So does forgiveness automatically mean we have to reconcile?

God grants us wisdom and discernment for moments like these. Reconciliation, though a desired outcome – is not a requirement. Forgiveness does not equal reconciliation. That’s right, I said it….. and this is something I had to learn the very hard way. But after reading deeper into the scriptures, listening to podcast (Lisa and John Bevere have a great one) and seeking wise counsel; I had to accept this truth.

Though forgiveness and reconciliation can be done together, they are two separate things.

Just because you are doing the expected thing as a Christian is not a green card for persons to do whatever they please and then to conveniently drop, ” What would Jesus do?” .Forgiveness doesn’t mean you allow the person to walk all over you each and every time. The best apology is changed behavior!

Each situation calls for self-awareness and self-evaluation.

Pray about it. I repeat. Pray about it.

Have you been convicted by the Holy Spirit? Not yourself …. But the true conviction of the Holy Spirit. (If you’re not being convicted on a daily basis it’s time to do a spiritual check up.)

Lord, did this agreement happen for me to step back from something? Do I need to forgive and MOVE on?

At the end of the day, forgiven people, should be forgiving people. Why? Because God has forgiven you!

❤️

The Graced Citizen

Boundaries

My loves! Peace and the love of Christ to you all ❤️

God has really stretched me for this post. I have been called to write it for some time now but it’s an area I struggle with at the highest level. So I was really asking God how would I be able to encourage people in an area I struggle with? How does someone who is always available to everyone create healthy boundaries ?

When I think about boundaries I immediately think about the fact that – to create a boundary that would involve me saying the word NO.

I had to realize that saying “no” didn’t make me a horrible person. After all when we were two / three it did become one of our favourite words. So how come when we became teenagers- adults we became afraid to use the word? Then I found this post from Grace Byers a while back:

The first time I said “No I don’t think I will be able to commit to that” or

“ No, I am not going to that event” or “No, I’m not available” – I. Freaked. Out. Why? Because I felt this authority that I’ve never felt before. You see I used to say no and follow up with an explanation. Are we really obligated to explain everything to everyone? That’s when boundaries are crossed. That’s when persons feel like they some what own a part of your life and your space.

I thought over and over I would disappoint people….but here’s the reality, I’m not superwoman and I needed to protect my space. I have my own things to deal with and in order to deal with them … I had to make time for myself! Right??

The more I grow in Jesus Christ , I realize that I can’t say yes to everything. Sometimes it will just have to be no. I have to be Spirit led with my no and stand by it. Not fall into the pressure trap or guilt cycle.

I struggled with this because I used to be a people pleaser. I love to help and people knew this. I can sit and listen to friends or family for hours only to offer the best advise I could. I love to plan and help out with everything and eventually this girl right here GOT TIRED. Sooooo I had to create a boundary for myself.

I also had to ask myself is my life centered around God? Or centred around pleasing people?

Have to allow people to cultivate their own relationship with Christ?

Everyone is responsible for their own lives and own salvation. I can’t make people grow fruit. I can’t work out someone else’s salvation

Philippians 2:12 says:

“Dear friends, you always followed my instructions when I was with you. And now that I am away, it is even more important. Work hard to show the results of your salvation, obeying God with deep reverence and fear.”

If your constantly busy with everyone else how do you make time for God? How do you find the time to study the Bible if you’re busy studying someone’s life?

How can the Holy spirit use you if you’re consistently exhausted?

Too exhausted to think? Or too exhausted to hear his voice? Or even too exhausted to simply feel His presence?

Was I constantly entertaining things pulling me away from Christ? ( including people, tv, music and things)

Once I created boundaries, I was set free. I actually had time to think and understand. I was able to grow my relationship with Jesus.

Now, with my healthy boundary I was able to have:

  1. A greater understanding of my Creator and source
  2. A greater understanding of self-love
  3. A greater understanding of my PURPOSE
  4. A greater understanding of self- acceptance and the importance of self-awareness and growth
  5. A greater understanding of true, unconditional love
  6. A greater understanding of the importance of family and friendships
  7. A greater understanding of letting go of thing that no longer serve or honour my purpose
  8. A greater understanding of my portion and sharing my blessings

I no longer conform to the “truths” of this world but to the truths of my Source.

Creating boundaries has made me free from the bondage of my past.

Don’t get me wrong. We are here to love and help each other as brothers and sisters in Christ…..but chose your battles and create healthy boundaries.

It simply allows you to B R E A T H E

Learn to be confident in your no. Ask the Holy Spirit about your yes.

What are some healthy God- led boundaries you create? Would love to hear from you!

lots of love,

The Graced Citizen ❤️

Psalm 62, My victory comes from the Lord! 

“I wait quietly before God, for my victory comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress where I will never be shaken. So many enemies against one man— all of them trying to kill me. To them I’m just a broken-down wall or a tottering fence. They plan to topple me from my high position. They delight in telling lies about me. They praise me to my face but curse me in their hearts. Interlude Let all that I am wait quietly before God, for my hope is in him. He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress where I will not be shaken. My victory and honor come from God alone. He is my refuge, a rock where no enemy can reach me. O my people, trust in him at all times. Pour out your heart to him, for God is our refuge. Interlude Common people are as worthless as a puff of wind, and the powerful are not what they appear to be. If you weigh them on the scales, together they are lighter than a breath of air. Don’t make your living by extortion or put your hope in stealing. And if your wealth increases, don’t make it the center of your life. God has spoken plainly, and I have heard it many times: Power, O God, belongs to you; unfailing love, O Lord, is yours. Surely you repay all people according to what they have done.”‭‭

I just love this Psalm so much!

Read and meditate.

lots of love,

The Graced Citizen