More than Proverbs 31?

As I seek the Lord and read His word more diligently, I quickly realized that being a Christian is being more than just reading and just being a “Proverbs 31 woman” . That is just one minute aspect of how I should be living. What about the rest of the Bible?

I mean in all truth and fact, the Bible which starts at Genesis and ends at Revelation, has far more teachings on how to live as a Christian and how to really walk the walk and talk the talk about Jesus.

Yes, that woman is very important. She is a Godly, virtuous woman that I still aspire to be. Proverbs 31 shows us woman who I believe nowadays is a little rare: trustworthy, industrious, organized, displayed true integrity and she was loving. She managed her resources well and used her God given gifts and talents. She is filled with wisdom and her husband of course respected and trusted her.

She is truly an example to follow.


Sometimes I feel like the world idolizes this woman with the wrong, incomplete perspective. We idolize the idea of her so much that we forget to pay attention to the truth of her foundation. What made the Proverbs 31 woman so great?

You see, she understood that God was her foundation. She knew that without Him, she was incapable of being the well rounded, respected woman described in this chapter. She lived out  Matthew 6:33 and most importantly, she feared the Lord.

Matthew 6:33 NLT says:

33 Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

Proverbs 31:31 NLT says:

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
    but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.


I couldn’t expect to grow spiritually by just aiming to be that Proverbs 31 woman the world portrays. I had to seek the truths she knew, sought and understood in order to become that woman.

The reality is that test have come my way where I was stretched in every area of my life.  Once you begin to walk in the will of God, test will come. Sadly, reading Proverbs 31 alone could not bring me through these test. Some days require the book of Psalms, some days I am reading Genesis reminding myself that I was created in His image, some days it was Corinthians or Romans on Paul’s examples of christian living and some days it was in the Gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke and John – studying Jesus’s life and teachings. It required me to read the Word and to pour out my heart in prayers + being still before the Lord.

The fear of the Lord is so important.

Lauren Oquist said: ” Proverbs 31 is not a prescription for us to fulfill, but a testimony of how God is shaping us into His image. If I listed character trait I aspire to have, I’d wind up with pages and pages. But without the fear of the Lord, none of these aspirations amount to anything. Why? Because every good thing in my life will be a direct result of my relationship with God.”

lots of love,

The Graced Citizen

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Good Morning!

Did you know that “I AM” is the greatest statement you can use to describe yourself?

Let’s go….. HI! *waves*

I AM Dayna

I AM a Daughter of the King

I AM a daughter

I AM a sister

I AM an aunt

I AM a Dentist

I AM great

I AM intelligent

I AM beautiful

I AM brave

I AM worthy

I AM strong

I AM successful

I AM able

As 2017 is coming to an end I can’t help but ask myself a few questions during my self- reflection:

1. What excuses am I making that’s preventing me from walking into my purpose / calling ?

2. Am I making God the centre of it all?

3. How am I connected to my creator?

4. Am I surrounding myself with the right people?

5. What can and should I be doing to activate my full potential?

One thing I definitely learned this year is that is very important to stay in my lane. You see dear ones, the grass is not always greener on the other side.

I have also learned:

1. That I should not be afraid to ask for help and accept it graciously.

2. It is okay to be super successful

3. It is powerful to be a woman, oh hey Proverbs 31 woman!

4. It is okay to fail and learn from the mistakes I have made good and bad.

With humility and gratitude, we should all aim to be inspired by our own purpose so as to inspire others.

I challenge you to discover your “ I AM”. Your I AM makes you who you are and I would like to think that makes you unique!

So stay in your lane and put death to comparison whilst remembering God is the creator of all and He is always good!

Bless you.

lots of love,